Growing and Finding Freedom

It is every parents' dream to see their child grow up to be someone important, prominent, famous or a popular tv star.  However, not everyone is born to wealth that will ensure the luxury of expensive training or to parents who can afford the time and money to ensure that their child is nurtured to the desired standard.

In his article entitled "A Lifetime of Enjoyment", Dr. James Dobson states that parents of children between birth and two years of age can begin to introduce them to the wonderful world of music. He adds that 'the most important era, however, occurs between three and seven, when eighty percent of a child's hearing development occurs.  That's the time when parents should expose their kids systematically to an array of rhythm and song. Introduce a feel for rhythm by giving the youngster a pot and a stick or a spoon to pound. You may even want to form a small rhythm band consisting of neighbourhood children or cousins. Then, as the child gets a little older, attend band concerts and parades and recitals.  And, finally, being given formal music lessons when the child appears emotionally and physically ready to learn. For Mozart, that was about three years of age.  For mere mortals, it will be a few years later. Regardless of the timetable, be sure you introduce your children to this exciting world that they will enjoy for a lifetime.' 

Similar hobbies like art, dance and other social pasttimes are also advisable to have children start training at besides their schoolwork as once a child shows his passion for a certain hobby it could end up to be something he loves doing for life. And as the well known saying goes: "When you enjoy what you do, you do not need to work all your life!"

Have your children learnt to take responsibility for their actions?
Better yet, have you learnt it?

It's amazing how often we blame others for the things that happen to us. And it's not just a problem with children - I know a lot of adults who can't seem to accept guilt when things go wrong. But part of growing is learning these five key principles of responsibility.
We'll call them the five A's of accepting blame.

First, admit when you do something wrong. Everyone makes bad choices and the first step in overcoming them is being honest about it.

Second, aplogise for how your transgression affected others. Make it right if you can.

Third, accept the consequences of your actions. And don't expect others to pay for your mistake.

Fourth, ask for forgiveness. Just because you've apologised, don't assume that others have forgotten how you hurt them.

And finally, alter your choices in the future. Decide now how you plan to do things differently the next time.

by Dr. Bill Maier

For the spiritually inclined, following are famous words on this subject:

Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do.

Give us today our daily bread and forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us.

Oh my Jesus, forgive us, save us from the fires of hell. Take all souls to heaven especially those most in need of thy mercy.

Focus on the Family

Dr James Dobson writes:

We receive about 10,000 letters and phone calls every day and I want to devote the next two or three commentaries to a few of the many questions submitted by parents and grand-parents. Let's start with this one:

"My husband and I are doing far too much disciplining our kids. Is there another way to encourage them to cooperate?"

Well, a child's continual misbehaviour may reflect a need for attention. Some kids would rather be wanted for murder than not wanted at all. Try putting some fun and laughter into your relationship and see what happens. You may be surprised.

Here's another question:

"My seven-year-old son has been doing some pretty awful things to neighbourhood dogs and cats. We've tried to stop him but I wonder if there's anything more to be concerned about here."

Cruelty to animals can be a symptom of very serious emotional problems in a child, and those who do such things repeatedly are not typically just going through a phase.
It should definitely be seen as a warning sign that ought to be checked out.

I don't want to alarm you or overstate the case, but early cruelty is correlated with violent behaviour as an adult.
I'd suggest that you take your son to a psychologist or psychiatrist for evaluation and, by all means, never tolerate any sort of unkindness to animals.

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Well, as a grandparent myself and a volunteer with errant kids, besides getting them to see a 'shrink' (is this a word I can use, otherwise, pardon me) I would like to recommend sending the kids to an animal shelter or even the zoo.

I feel that every kid just emulates what they see in their growing years and if they are surrounded by other people who have somehow shown that being a bully or tough guy pays, then they would follow suit.

When surrounded by TLC and bombarded with love and kindness then there is no way the kid will want to be otherwise.

Just my two-bits. Take care.

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Focus on the Family
Here are two different takes on Heredity and Personalities of Children.

The first, Dr. James Dobson writes...

For parents whose children have caused them great pain through rebellion and misbehaviour, recent years would have been a nightmare of conflict and disappointment for them.

A hundred years ago, if a child went bad, he was a bad child. Now, it's the fault of his parents. Admittedly, some parents do warp and twist their offspring, but there are others who did the best job they could to raise their sons and daughters properly.

Genetic studies conducted at the University of Minnesota revealed that the basic temperament of a child is largely inherited. So for those parents with rebellious teenagers, it is suggested that you take another look at the guilt you have been carrying and get rid of it.

Second, a letter to the local press, asks
Whether children should pay for the sins of their parents?

Social ills, such as student suicides and the rising divorce rate in the first five years of marriage, should not be swept under the carpet but met head on with soul-searching.

Nowadays, both parents often have to work to cope with the high cost of living. Are these parents passing the buck of parenting to their in-laws, maids and teachers?

Of what use is all the acquired wealth if one does not have the health to enjoy it, if our dear children end up as social misfits or if they contract Aids through pre-marital sex?

The writing has been on the wall for over a decade. If our politicians and parents choose to turn a blind eye, it is our children who will pay the heavy price.